quarter life crisis

my quarter life crisis started right on time.  I turned 25 and kind of lost it.  I have no idea what I am doing with my life, what I want out of it.  I am single, no kids, no "real" job and no direction.  All I have is credit card debt and two cats.  So I decided to try to embrace my crisis and find a direction.  I have stumbled for the last year or so.  I went through a lot of changes and my depression kind of overtook things for a long time but now that I have been through therapy and gotten a bit of a direction to my life I have to make a plan.


Step one: develop a mission statement.  This is a statement that you use to define and guide you through your journey.


" I will take every new adventure with enthusiasm.  I will travel to new places, learn new things and learn to love and discover myself along the way."


This is my mission statement.  It gave me a direction and some goals.  I want to learn and do new things, travel and figure out who I am and what I want out of life.


Step Two: Read


I started with pinterest and read blogs and quotes from other twenty somethings.  I got advice and workouts and made boards all about adulating.  I read a book called "Adulting".  I read another book called "You're a Badass"  I started taking tips from people who had been through it.


Step Three: Let go of your past self


This is one of the hardest things for me because a larger portion of my life has been about other people.  I was in an emotionally abusive relationship for many years and my life pretty much became all about him.  I didn't have my own identity other than his girlfriend and the last two years have been extremely hard overcoming that and letting go of the person I used to be. 


Step Four:  what do you want from your future


there are some things I am sure of.  I don't want children.  I don't want to be married and I want to see the world.  Those are my only real constants.  They have never changed and they never will so that is where I started.  This is the step I am currently on.  A little bit of three is still working its way out but step four is whats up.